building trust

“You have to build trust among team members so that people feel free to admit what they don’t know, make mistakes, ask for help if they need it, apologise when necessary, and not hold back their opinions”Patrick Lencioni

When we take on fresh opportunities, we generally get structured training. When we undergo major changes in our business, career or lives, we believe we need to work it out for ourselves. What’s the difference?

Over the past week i’ve spoken to a number of business owners and leaders about how they handle change. When things happen that require a change in mindset, do we have the skills to make the choices necessary and do we feel comfortable asking others for guidance.

Asking for help in some circles can be seen as a sign of weakness, a dent to the ego, a feeling of inferiority or acknowledging that you feel you aren’t as good as you think you are. Ever been there? To be direct, you’ve just made this all about you and your beliefs, not about getting the best result. Having these beliefs will stop you making a decision, getting a cracking result and getting on with creating excellent outcomes.

Here are 3 tips to help you get past the blockage of asking for help to help get amazing results:  

  1. What won’t happen if you don’t – by focussing on what you won’t get if you don’t reach out highlights what you are willing to miss out on by not making a decision to reach out. If you don’t mind missing out on this then don’t reach out. 😉 

  2. Believe in the outcomes – if you want to get the results you desire, and you see the difference they will make to you and those around you, then believe by at least asking the question you will make it possible for them to happen. “Don’t ask don’t get” comes to mind.

  3. Leverage the expertise of others – you ask the question, you get a response and you know where you stand on next steps. The ability to work with a Mentor or Coach to develop the skills you need to own your new situation will benefit all those you interact with.   

This week, check in on whether there are areas you can ask for help developing. Apply the tips above and see how it allows you to develop, be the person you need to be and create even better results.      

Feel empowered to forward on to those in your networks who will also get value from our regular tips. If you want to build your capacity to delegate, send us a note at strategy@ and we’d love to chat about how we can help.

Have an awesome week!

Paul Farmer
Managing Director